San Marcos is a great place to live. It has this easy-going feeling, with sunshine and access to beaches and hiking trails, but there are also a lot of pressures that go with living in Southern California. Raising kids and the whole parenting thing gets complicated. Lately, you have been considering child therapy in San Marcos for your child.

If you have ever been to therapy yourself, you know it can take some time to find the “right” therapist. The truth is it can be even harder to find the right therapist for a child struggling with anxiety. There are several reasons, but here are the basic ones.

There are a lot of therapists who provide child therapy. You’ve asked friends and family for referrals. You looked at therapist directories and read websites. Mind-boggled. Check.

You narrowed down your search. It looks like most therapists offer a consultation. How do you figure out what to ask? How do you make a decision?

Stigmas persist about getting help from a counselor or mental health therapist. And when it’s your kid who needs child therapy for anxiety, it’s not something proudly posted on social media.

Talking to children about participating in therapy is like many other things we have to speak to our children about. Kids often take their cues from adults. If we present therapy as a place where a child must talk to a therapist, a child can feel a tremendous amount of pressure to not only please their parent but also to talk to a complete stranger about something that is already difficult to put into words. If we are tentative and worried when we talk about therapy, which can be natural because we have concerns about our child, he or she may believe there is something to worry about. If we appear to be evading questions, they may feel we are hiding something from them.